Individual counselling for people who want to show up better in their relationships, without losing themselves in the process.
In-person (Vancouver, BC) and virtual across Canada.
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Your relationships aren't necessarily falling apart. Some of them are intact. Some of them look fine from the outside.
But something inside them doesn't feel right. Maybe you give more than you get back and you're starting to feel it. Maybe you go quiet when you should speak. Maybe you say yes when you mean no, and then sit with the weight of that. Maybe conflict makes you freeze, or you find yourself managing everyone else's emotions while yours stay somewhere in the background.
The pattern is different for everyone. What tends to be the same is the feeling, that you're not quite showing up as yourself, and the relationships are paying for it one way or another.
Some patterns that show up across your relationships, and how they tend to play out
You go quiet when your relationships need something emotional from you. Not because you don't care, you just don't know how to stay in it when it gets heavy.
You've spent so long being what your relationships need that you're not sure what you actually need from them.
You give a lot. You rarely ask for the same back. Somewhere underneath that, resentment has been quietly building.
Conflict makes you freeze. You know what you want to say. Getting it out in the moment is a different problem.
You keep finding yourself in the same dynamic, different person, different relationship, same feeling at the end of it.
You're the one people lean on. What that costs you tends to stay private
A clear path from first call to ongoing work
Before anything changes, you need to see what's actually running. Not just what happens in your relationships, but why you respond the way you do when they put pressure on you. That's where we start.
If you've been managing, shrinking, or over-giving for long enough, you lose track of what you actually want from the people in your life. This part of the work is about getting that back, not in theory, but in the relationships you're actually in.
The point isn't to blow things up or reinvent yourself. It's to be genuinely present in your relationships as you actually are. That's harder than it sounds, and it takes practice in real situations.
Want to find out if this is the right fit for your team?
Most of what plays out in your relationships starts long before the relationship itself, in how you're wired to respond, which version of yourself shows up under pressure, and the story you've been carrying about your role. Understanding those things gives you more influence over where your relationships go. Here are some of the ways we look at that.
How you react in your relationships isn't random. There's something driving it, a belief, a pattern, a way of protecting yourself that made sense at some point. We look at what that is before anything else.
You don't arrive in your relationships as one fixed version of yourself. Different situations bring out different sides of you, and some of those sides have been running the show longer than you'd like. This work helps you understand those sides and lead from a steadier place.
At some point, a story formed about who you are in your relationships, what you're supposed to do, what you're allowed to need, what happens when things go wrong. That story shapes everything. This work helps you see it clearly enough to decide what stays and what doesn't.
It's a chance to talk through what's been coming up for you and get a sense of how I work. No commitment required.
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Psychotherapy in Vancouver and across BC
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